Caramel Dictionaries and Bobbing for Weather Vanes

Through a short talk with a new friend of mine I began thinking more and more about the mistakes I have made in my life. In retrospect, I was naive, however I still feel that the "mistakes" that I made were more like lessons. I've taken notes in my head, I have occasionally failed to study and had to look over the lesson again, but nevertheless I am stronger now than I ever was before.

When we experience something that completely shatters us, we have to give it our all to simply rebuild ourselves back up to what we were, perhaps even stronger.. or weaker. Much time and a super-human amount of effort goes forth to get ourselves back to what we were, and in the process, we are changed. We are changed in some way, no matter how seemingly insignificant. Everyone in their lives has experienced some roads that are rockier than others. I'm sure, unfortunately, that some people have even been unsure that they can overcome obsticles that stand in their way. The truth is, regardless of how cliche it may seem, every single person on this planet makes mistakes.

There have been people in my life that have kept me down, but for every one person that broke my heart, there were those that helped put it back together. There have been people who have left my life that I cried and fell apart over, but now I realize that I'm happier without them. Some times it takes a little bit of effort and self-realization to fully understand the concept that what you want is not always necessarily what is good for you. In order to recognize when something is not good for you, the one thing you must understand is that you are worth something. You are worth ridding yourself of those who serve as a negative influence in your life. This does not only apply to people, but to bad habits as well. A person can serve as a pack of cigerettes or a bottle of jack to your own, personal well-being. Regardless of the fact that you enjoy that bottle, your life will be healthier and eventually happier.

I sometimes think that we tend to underestimate the influence that people have in our lives. I fell horrible for the people that have to deal with others who have difficulty trusting people. Someone could truly miss out on an unforgetable relationship simply for the lack of trust. If there is any one piece of advice I could give absolutely anyone, it would be this: Learn from your mistakes and make adjustments to them. I'm not saying that if someone cheats on you, you should never put trust in someone so that they are able to break you, I'm saying be smart. Don't just allow yourself to fall so easily, make sure your decisions are smart before you act. Take it from me, just because a guy/or girl is attractive on the outside, does not mean that they are attractive inside. Don't let lust overcome love, and always remember that you should be more concerned with finding your bride's maids than with finding your groom, so to speak.

I can't even express how many people I know that feel that they have to have a significant other because the individual doesn't want to end up "alone". I, personally, feel that this concept is a bit ridiculous, and this ties in once again with having self-esteem. I think that if a person loves someone else, they should at first be able to love themselves before they can truly and whole-heartedly love another.

“I think we all wish we could erase some dark times in our lives. But all of life's experiences, bad and good, make you who you are. Erasing any of life's experiences would be a great mistake.” --Luis Miguel