Potatoe Pancakes and Pornography for Goats

You are sitting on your computer writing an English paper about how modern art effects society, longing for some distraction to break your concentration. You then start thinking about your friends, your family, your goals.. and then something breaks you away from your happy little daydream. One person from your past pops into your head and all of a sudden, that English paper didn't seem like torture. We all, as much as we would like to admit it, have at least one person who has hurt us the most out of anyone. We all have experienced a stab in the back from a "friend", or a failed relationship that ruined a friendship. Now, we all know that this sucks (for a lack of better words), and we all know that if we were ever to meet this person on the street, we might just flat out get the urge to punch them in the throat. HOWEVER, I feel that I should express my opinions on this considering it seems that I am not the only person who has trouble with holding grudges.

Every person who has ever hurt you, whether you chose to admit it or not, has effected your life in one way or another. This realization, for me at least, hurts. When we are hurt, we tend to try to act like the situation never really effected us, or like it never crosses our minds. We fall victim to the hate that lies within our own hearts and become no better than the person who caused us so much pain. I call onto you to toss this pain aside. Surely hating someone so much is not going to help anything. I mean, what are you going to do, get back at them for what they've done to you? The truth is, people like that do not even deserve your emotion. I do strongly believe that one of the problems we face is learning to let go. 

The process of letting the new you emerge can be one of the scariest experiences in your life. But by leaving behind your old self and taking a leap of faith into the unknown, it might just reveal what you are truly capable of becoming. In order to allow yourself  to take that leap, you must realize what is good for you is not necessarily what you enjoy doing. Did you like getting shots at the doctor's when you were a child? Chances are (if you did not have masochistic tendencies as a child) you screamed and kicked and hated it. However, the vaccines and whatnot made you healthier. One main thing about this particular post is health. I used to worry myself sick, quite literally, and I think that if anyone can express to you the dangers of stress, it's me.

The major point I am trying to make with this particular post is this: Do not make someone a necessity if they only want to make you an option. There are people out there who would love your company, and enjoy to converse with you. Do not fight someone just to get them on the phone with you because that just clearly makes the conversation lose its meaning. You should hang around people who make you value yourself and them as well. You should not sit and worry and drive yourself crazy over someone who couldn't care less about your feelings, emotions, or problems. This is why I can not stress enough the need to critically think about your life. Actually evaluate who you generally spend most of your time with. How have they helped you? More importantly, how have they harbored you?

Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?
-- Leo Buscaglia